This is Naim. Naim is 20. Naim is a my boyfriend. Naim is Macedonian. I am Scottish. We are in a ldr. WOO :|. I love him. He loves me. We love each other. We met online. He’s the most handsome and genuine guy I’ve ever met. I’ve visited him twice. I need him. I can’t imagine my life without him.
So that’s your proper introduction to my boyfriend.
I have been abusing this Tumblr but deffinetly I am going to start dedicating my time to it and posting about my LDR and personal thoughts and feelings.
If your interested please don’t hesitate to follow me, I’ll always follow back. I believe that everyone has their own very important thing to express via Tumblr and I want to hear it all :).
:)
Long distance Survey
Long Distance Relationship Survey… About You
What is your name? Nicola
How old are you? 18
Where do you live? Scotland
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About Him:
What’s his name? Naim
How old is he? 20
Where does he live? Macedonia
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About The Relationship:
Since you’re taking this, it’s a long-distance relationship, right? Yeah
Did you meet through the internet? hah, slightly embarrassingly still for me yeah.
If not, then how did you meet? ^
How long have you been together? Officially 4 months but talked for the first time 1 and a half years ago
When Was The Last Time you:
Saw him? 10th of July
Kissed him? 10th of July
Hugged him? 10th of july
Talked to him? Today via Facebook messages (free version of texting haha)
Had sex with him? 10th of July …………!!
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Some Other Questions:
What made you decide you wanted to be in a long-distance relationship? He asked me in October(and a few times after that) and i said no because I wasn’t keen in LDR and because I met him online but i really fell in love with him so I said yes in June this year.
Are there any songs that remind you of him? Cat Steven’s - Wild world.
Ever feel unable to believe you’re in a real relationship because of it? I would never cheat on him but when im out with my girlfriends sometimes I feel like i want him there so much and i doubt the LDR, i wonder if it would be easier to be with a guy here.. but i want him and the wait will be worth it one day :)
Do you ever feel angry or stressed because of the distance? I always miss him, I always want him here - and that upsets me mostly.
Do you ever take it out on your significant other? never face-to-face but i have when I was online but mostly it was because i was having a stressful time at home or at university. I always apologised afterwards.
Are you ever jealous of local couples? Not jealous just.. it makes me miss him more.. but i don’t want to be with a British guy here i want to be with HIM here or there or anywhere.
What are the advantages of a long-distance relationship? Knowing that he is really really in love with you if he choose a harder option over simply dating any girl from his town.
What are the disadvantages? Not having him near me when I need him or when he needs me.
Do you have less faith in your relationship because of the distance? It’s hard right now because right now we cant see anyway that we could possibly be together in the future - but we are going to figure it out one day.
Do you know when the next time you’ll see him? I dont know - and thats really hard because it means i have nothing to give me hope right now. Everything is just NEGATIVE.
How do you usually talk to him? Skype and Facebook :)
Has the distance helped your relationship at all? it has always been distanced - i know nothing different.
If so, in what ways? —-
Do you find it hard to trust your significant other? I trust him, he’s wary of other guys but i think he knows that i would never cheat
Have you, or your S/O, ever taken advantage of the distance and lied? Nope
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Future:
Do you ever hope to live with your significant other? Yes
Do you hope to marry him/her? I don’t really believe in marriage personally.
Do you hope to have kids with him/her? Not really, maybe 1 when We are in our 40’s
Do you think it would be strange to finally have him with you, permanently? probably at first - but i would love it !
Do you think there’s a chance of this happening? after 5 years minimum
How often do you cry over it? my last big cry was at the airport and i have had tears in my eyes but i haven’t lost control recently.
Would you ever break up with him/her because of the distance? i don’t think so, I wouldn’t have distance be the sole reason
What keeps you from ending it all? I love him and i would rather be with him from a distance than sit at home in the arms of someone that i wasn’t in love with.
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Finishing:
Overall, are you happy you’re in the relationship? YES sometimes its hard though.
Any advice for others in your situation? I don’t reccomend LDR. If you are in love with that person or knew them in person before the distance was created then that’s fine.. but LDR’s take alot of work and patience to get right and that can put a huge strain on your life.
nice messages to wake up to when you fall asleep on skype :)
him: aww my angel
him: (h)
him: love you so much
him: its really good to see your face in the morning <3 , your face is so beautiful always your so so amazing babe .. i wish i could kiss your face, your cheeks, your forehead while your sleeping. To keep you attached to me and kiss YOU to feel your soft skin to keep your legs wrapped around me and to feel you ALL JUST FOR ME (h) i love you sooo muchhh babe
wish wish wish so much!
Feeling caught..
For the next few weeks i’m free from Uni but flight prices are ridiculously expensive, Right after I go back to university flights are like £40 return, but there isn’t a flight that would work around the weekend and prevent me from missing some uni… and because the UK is so strict on people visiting its really complicated and costs extra money for N to apply for a tourists visa to visit the UK. So we are both free right now but can’t visit each other and i’m not going to get time off uni till December to visit him… and around that time the flight prices are £$£€£ again… meh. Just wishing that things were different.. like usual.
The great attraction.
Does anyone else feel like their “taste in guys” has changed since falling in love?
I first talked to my LDB 15months ago online. I thought he was a really nice, funny guy. When I first saw his face on webcam i thought he was “just ok looking”. We were just friends and i didn’t imagine him being anything else. He had nice green eyes i noted but i didn’t feel all “mushy” it was just eyes. Over time I felt myself getting more and more attracted to him as i started to fall in love, but his appearence hadn’t changed any - just my perception of him changed. Now if i’m with a friend in the park and rating random guys out of 10 due to boredness. I have found myself rating those higher that look like N, when previously my type was long hair, rough looking,rocking, tall and muscly. N is near the opposite of this. Yet I am happy with him, In fact i consider myself to be so lucky that I have such a handsome boyfriend.
I don’t consider myself particularly beautiful… I have a nose that i really think does not suit my face, a below average sized pair of boobs, my weight gain in the past year is more than iv ever gained before, I’m too tall, my hair is currently a stupid Ginger colour due to the sun, and i even hate the little dent between my nose and lips- Almost everything i dislike. Even my long “model-like” legs that all my friends say that they would “DIE TO HAVE” I find faults with.
But N makes me feel so beautiful and special, hes really built my confidence - making me happy to be myself :) I need him in my life.
Today I know i’m being so selfish.. but i can’t seem to stop myself.
So N is thinking of applying for an artist visa thing in Hamburg Germany, hes been talking about it for a while, he actually already sells art there using his German relatives. Anyway.. he hates where he stays and he wants to leave he talked about coming here and staying maybe 1 year being with ME. but now its changed to Germany because its “easier”… and im just like “what happened to you being excited about staying with me in a flat and living together and working here??!” OK I HAVNT ACCTUALLY SAID THIS TO HIM. but im thinking it. I also keep saying judgmental things. I know its great that he might be getting the chance to and live in Germany for 9months but on the surface of my emotions im annoyed that he choose that over being with me. Anyway time to put on a fake smile and be “supportive”…
